To find normal is tough during these co-vid times.
If you know the 1970 song by Chicago referenced in my title, then you may have hummed the next line: “Does anybody really care?”
On a recent Tuesday evening, I was among the same four people who have been trapped inside our house for the past two months. I said, “Well, at least tomorrow is Friday.” The other three sat there for a moment and finally someone asked, “Wait, is tomorrow really Friday?” I screamed, “NO. Tomorrow is Wednesday.” (It wasn’t a scream of anger, but of emphasis.)
Does anybody really know what time it is? Does anybody really care?
What’s normal?
Prisoners of war found that keeping track of time was both difficult and essential to find normal. Losing track of time contributes to a sense of malaise, confusion, and lack of motivation.
As Karen Carpenter sang, “What I’ve got they used to call the blues. Nothin’ is really wrong.”
While parts of our world are reopening, much of what we considered normal will not be experienced for some time to come. Some portions of the old normal are gone, never to be part of the new normal that is emerging.
It’s interesting that the way we watch TV today compounds this challenge because we rarely associate shows with days of the week. Growing up, we knew that The Brady Bunch was on Fridays. Today shows are on whenever you have time to watch them.
My encouragement? To find normal keep a normal track of time.
We have taken to ordering out on Wednesdays, “hump day.” The funny thing is that I’ve never cared about hump day because I have had significant control over my schedule for most of my adult life. But in the midst of this pandemic we’ve discovered that having some markers throughout the week help to maintain a sense of momentum.
Here are three quick ideas to be adapted to your situation. I hope you’ll create your own responses that are effective for you.
To find normal keep a natural rhythm to each day and week.
We are going to bed later and getting going later. But we are trying to keep our weeks in rhythm by attending church each Sunday and looking to Saturdays as a day for home chores.
To find normal reflect on what you were doing one year ago and predict what normal one year from now may look like.
Place today, this week, this month within the context of your life flow.
To find normal, weather permitting, Judy and I walk in the mornings.
This is a way that we can exercise while discussing a wide range of topics from parenting to planning. This allows us to get the day off on the right foot (so to speak). Don’t lose track of time. The consequences are real and they aren’t pretty. Find and maintain your rhythm. A normal. When that socially distanced neighbor asks, “Hey, do you know what time it is?” you can smile and respond, “As a matter of fact, I do.”
About:
Dr. Stephen Julian is President of Julian Consulting, a firm specializing in team health, effective communication, and leadership development. He has worked with leaders and their teams for nearly 30 years in a variety of settings – including Africa, South and Central America.
Reclaim your heart for God. You can reclaim your heart for God. Or maybe claim it for the first time. Sure you’ve messed up. We all have. And David who killed Goliath messed up too. Big time. And yet, scripture says David had a heart for God. So if David reclaimed his heart for God, there’s hope for all of us. Here are three steps to reclaim yours.
To Reclaim Your Heart For God You Must Recognize Its Condition
Is man basically good or evil? You can argue it either way, right? There are many examples of both. The Bible, however, simply calls us sinful. In other words, we have the capacity for both good and evil. Isn’t that what we actually see in the world?
Sin is the heart condition that separates us from God. And we all sin. Lying, cheating and stealing are just a few obvious ones. There are many other things we do as well. Also things we say and even think about. Seriously. Do I have to spell them all out for you?
The point is, when you let sin rule your heart, you act in all kinds of…well, sinful ways. But you don’t have to let sin rule. You can invite God’s Spirit to rule instead.
To Reclaim Your Heart For God It Must Be Transformed
It was a time after defeating Goliath that David committed adultery and then committed murder to cover it up. Two more examples of sin. But when confronted with his wrong doing, he confessed his sin and repented before God.
Confession and repentance open the door to transformation. Why? Because when you confess and repent, God forgives. Simple, but not easy. Because confession and repentance require humility.
And that means taking responsibility for your actions, rather than make excuses and blame someone or something else. That’s what David did. And we all have to do too. That’s when your heart is transformed.
Transformation doesn’t happen because of what you do, but what God has done. God’s forgiveness wipes the slate clean. Makes you new from the inside out. Lets you start over. And reclaim your heart for God.
Your Reclaimed Heart Must Be Guarded
When you reclaim your heart for God, it’s not one and done. Because sin is persistent and pervasive. And there’s a spiritual enemy seeking to drag you down. And relentless on his spiritual attacks.
That’s why even though God transforms your heart, it quickly and easily fills back up with sin. And so you must sincerely and regularly repeat the whole confession and repentance process.
You have to guard what you let into your heart. And manage what stays there. Play defense and offense. By also pursuing a life that moves towards God, rather than away.
As you reclaim your heart for God, you also reclaim a life of purpose, meaning and eternal significance.
About Chip Tudor:
Chip Tudor is an author, blogger and professional writer. He publishes books, humorous Christian drama, and thought provoking blogs from a Christian worldview.This blog is originally published here.
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An entrepreneurial get’er done leader makes things happen. And will roll up the sleeves and get his hands dirty. Here are three attributes of an entrepreneurial get’er done leader.
An Entrepreneurial Get’er Done Leader Demonstrates Vision
Vision isn’t always a special revelation. It uses common sense. Considers future possibilities. And chooses the best one for your organization.
So rather than a mystical mantra, it follows current events. Watches markets and consumer trends. And listens to what people say and do.
In other words, vision frames a future picture that paints your organization into it.
An Entrepreneurial Get’er Done Leader Is Strategic
Once direction is set, entrepreneurial get’er done leaders form a plan to get there. One that makes sense. Is easy to communicate. And turns a vision into material form.
Hence, it generally involves…
The Right People…
With the right skill set. Working in their sweet spot. In order to reach peak performance. And ultimately benefit the bottom line.
The Right System/Process…
So you work more efficiently. And save on costs. Perhaps it’s automating tasks. Or a better workflow process.
The Right Technology…
Like state of the art equipment or software programs. To help your team work better, faster and smarter.
An Entrepreneurial Get’er Done Leader Executes Plans Successfully
Entrepreneurial get’er done leaders carefully and skillfully execute plans. Additionally, they’re creative and innovative. Cool under pressure. And face things head on.
As a result, they don’t assign blame. But focus on problem-solving and forward movement. And encourage team collaboration.
Furthermore, they’re action oriented. And dig in to help. Because they lead by example rather than command. And use influence and encouragement to build teams that strive for excellence.
The Incredible blessing of Biblical grace begins with a simple understanding. You don’t earn or deserve it. But it’s a gift.
However, when you accept the gift of grace. Embrace it. And purposefully invite it into your worldview, it transforms your life. And the positive impact you have on others. Here’s how.
The Incredible Blessing of Biblical Grace Comes From God
God is the author of grace. The idea originator. It’s something He doesn’t have to offer. But does anyway simply because He wants to.
I step towards Biblical grace by recognizing that God is completely perfect, holy and righteous. And I am the exact opposite. Imperfect, unholy and unrighteous. I fall way short of God’s standard.
And here’s what’s really incredible. God loves me anyway. And cleared a path for me with Grace. Through the life, death and resurrection of His Son, Jesus Christ.
Grace rejects the idea of what I can do. And celebrates what God has done.
The Incredible Blessing of Biblical Grace Sets You Free
People today are in incredible bondage. It’s everywhere you look. In the rage. The fear. And driven by a sense of hopeless desperation.
So what’s gripping you? Because it’s different for everyone. Maybe politics. Porn. A job. Finances. And of course, the list goes on. So fill in the blank.
Because there are real problems that must be addressed. And no, God might not magically make everything better. Poof!
But grace provides freedom. Because bondage isn’t always something that only grips you.
Bondage can be something you’re holding on to.
And this is why grace is so powerful. Where God encourages and reassures. And He says simply. “Relax. I’ve got this. You can let it go.”
That’s when you fall into God’s arms. Are washed in peace. Filled with joy. And you discover the truth that sets you free.
The Incredible Blessing of Biblical Grace Is Meant To Be Shared
The most wonderful thing about Biblical Grace is that you and I can share it with someone else. It’s what God expects. What everyone wants. And needs.
To be able to say, “yes, I know you’re imperfect. Me too. And since God has offered me this incredible gift, I share it with you too.
Grace gives others the benefit of the doubt. And step away from judging and condemning others. Because that’s God’s job anyway. And someday, I will have my turn too.
And when I am gracious to others, I imitate God. Which furthers the Kingdom of God. And in a sense, offers it back to God.
Where Biblical Grace is Shared Peace Prevails
Grace has a calming affect. It relieves the pressure of performance. I can strive for perfection while knowing I’ll never attain it. And that’s okay.
Even though I’ll keep striving for it. Not because I’m trying to earn anything. But because I am experiencing the incredible blessing of Biblical grace. And I’m motivated by gratitude.
Grace puts me at peace with God. Which promotes peace with others. And transforms where change is most impactful. In the heart. And from the inside out.
About Chip Tudor:
Chip Tudor is an author, blogger and professional writer. He publishes books, humorous Christian drama, and thought provoking blogs from a Christian worldview.This blog is originally published here.
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My father’s first sermon was delivered at the Bowery Mission in New York City. He began with a rhetorical question: “Would you rather be wise or foolish?” Unfortunately for him, one of the inebriated attendees shouted out his answer from the back of the room: “Foolish!”
Thankfully, readers of this newsletter would opt for wise. But like so many things of value, wisdom is not acquired simply as the result of passing time. Wisdom takes work.
Wisdom Building Statistical Strategies
Most of us have strategies that are statistically successful. That is, they work more often than not.
One of my statistically successful strategies is taking the words of clients seriously. When a client says, “I’m really struggling to develop a vision for the next three years of this organization,” I don’t respond, “I’m sure you’re doing fine. You’ve always come up with a clear vision that has motivated your organization to success.”
Instead I ask…
“Why do you think you’re struggling? You’ve always done well with crafting vision in the past. What has changed?”
Another statistically successful strategy has been speaking directly about issues to people. “You say you want to spend more time with your family, but you seem to draw meaning almost entirely from your work. What will motivate you to change your current behaviors?”
Both strategies have failed.
One of my favorite examples was lunch with the CFO of a multinational corporation. He asked me, “Stephen, what motivates you? What is it that you are seeking to achieve?” Without hesitation I responded, “My mission is to free people to be themselves.”
About five minutes later, my lunch companion remarked, “Reflecting back on your comment about freeing people to be themselves, I can assure you that as CFO I have absolutely no interest in seeing that happen.”
Each of us has strengths and statistically successful strategies that arise from our personality and gifting. They come naturally. We don’t have to work at them or even think consciously about employing them. They flow from us. It could be listening, encouraging, evaluating, critiquing, directing, advising, motivating, or any of 1,000 additional gifts.
Wisdom Building Through Natural, Non-Conscious Strengths And Gifts
Wisdom comes when we take these natural, nonconscious strengths and gifts and begin to consciously shape their expression.
By modifying these statistically successful strategies to be even more successful. We learn to read our audience, understand the context, consider the timing, and thereby modify what comes naturally. Take the nonconscious and make it conscious. Make the statistically successful even more productive. It becomes a super-strength.
This requires thought, effort, and nuance. This requires work.
It may also require humility as we learn from others who advise us how to be more successful in the expression of our strengths.
How do I become wise? I read my clients and understand that they don’t intend for their words to be taken seriously in this context. I recognize that directness would not be appropriate at this time.
Where can you move from statistically successful strategy to wisdom? Move from natural strength and gifting to super-strength? Are you willing to invest the energy, the work, required for this transformation? Are you willing to accept input from those around you?
Let those around you observe in your behavior that you are shouting, “I want to be wise!”
About:
Dr. Stephen Julian is President of Julian Consulting, a firm specializing in team health, effective communication, and leadership development. He has worked with leaders and their teams for nearly 30 years in a variety of settings – including Africa, South and Central America.
There’s a difference between Virtue Signaling and Biblical virtue. But they share one thing in common. Both show a desire for righteousness.
And that’s good. Because it confirms a shared sense of morality. An understanding of right and wrong. Good and evil. And that our human goodness should please someone.
I believe that someone to please is an absolute, righteous God. Although you might say it’s about pleasing other people. Which is also true.
But here are four differences between virtue signaling and Biblical virtue.
The Difference Between Virtue Signaling And Biblical Virtue is One Glorifies Yourself And The Other Glorifies God
Virtue Signaling is a moral goodness, pat yourself on the back. It proclaims my support of a worthy cause, behavior or group. And casts judgment on those who aren’t on board.
It lifts me up by lowering others.
Don’t we all just love to pile on with “me too” frenzy when public figures commit despicable acts? And feel better about ourselves since we are not like that.
Biblical virtue, however, focuses on God’s goodness.
Why? Because the Bible says I’m a sinner. And my goodness is really not all that good. And my righteousness falls way short of God’s standard.
The Difference Between Virtue Signaling And Biblical Virtue is One Is Driven By Pride And The Other Humility
Virtue signaling says look at me. See how moral I am? How righteous? Except the Bible calls this self-righteousness. Because it’s really pride in disguise. And a humble brag of moral superiority.
And ultimately, virtue signaling leads to the sin Jesus regularly condemned. Hypocrisy.
Because as sinners, we all commit moral failures.
And yet, God offers forgiveness. Which makes me thankful. Because He freely gives me what I can’t earn. And it fills me with a desire to imitate the humility demonstrated by Jesus.
Comparing To Other People Versus Comparing To Jesus Christ
The difference between virtue signaling and Biblical virtue is that virtue signaling compares to other people. And Biblical virtue compares to Jesus Christ.
And have you noticed? Virtue signaling compares down.
It looks for someone messing up more than me. Because there’s always someone…somewhere…at some time…morally messing up more than me. I just carefully pick the right one.
And I say carefully, because in some moral areas, I might be someone else’s pick.
Jesus models the righteousness I should pursue. Even though I’ll never reach his level. Because Jesus was God in human form. And perfect. And I’m not.
But I press on. Striving for a Godly righteousness I won’t fully attain. And following the one who did.
Condemnation And Shame Versus Grace
The difference between virtue signaling and Biblical virtue is virtue signaling is about condemnation. And Biblical virtue is about grace. The first sings my praises. The second praises God.
Because we all break God’s law. Are on the same, sinful playing field. And no one is better than anyone else.
And yet, God offers everyone grace. So we should offer it to others as well. Along with understanding. Compassion. And truth.
I understand the reason for virtue signaling. Without absolute standards, you can only measure your moral goodness by comparison.
But it’s always a shooting target. And never satisfying. The Bible however, provides God’s standard for righteousness. Tells us why it’s important. And how to attain it.
When you embrace the difference between virtue signaling and Biblical virtue. It will make a big difference in your life.
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